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Expats often behave poorly in foreign countries due to a combination of personality disorders, high-conflict tendencies, financial pressures, relationship issues, and the exploitation of local kindness and anonymity, leading to negative impacts on host communities.
The video explores the phenomenon of 'expats behaving badly,' identifying several key reasons behind such actions. The host discusses personality disorders like narcissistic personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder, explaining how individuals with these conditions may seek admiration, escape past issues, or exhibit aggression and disregard for social norms in a new country. These individuals often leverage their foreign status and financial resources to gain attention or control they wouldn't achieve back home.
Beyond personality disorders, the discussion extends to high-conflict personalities who thrive in lower-cost-of-living countries where their financial leverage and tendency to argue are less easily managed. Financial pressures are also a significant factor, with some expats arriving unprepared, overspending their resources, and resorting to scams or borrowing schemes when their money runs out. Relationship pressures, particularly in family-oriented cultures like the Philippines, can trap expats in cycles of financial requests and emotional manipulation, often exacerbated by a lack of boundaries.
The video highlights how the inherent kindness, tolerance, and hospitality of Filipinos can be exploited by expats who mistake these virtues for weakness. This, combined with the anonymity offered by moving between locations or countries, allows some expats to avoid accountability for their actions. The host emphasizes that while most expats are positive contributors, a vocal minority engages in problematic behavior, creating a negative impression and impacting local communities. The video serves as a call for awareness and responsible behavior among expatriates.
Expats may behave badly abroad due to underlying personality disorders like narcissism or antisocial tendencies. These individuals might seek admiration or escape past issues, leading to aggressive or disregards social norms in a new country. They can also leverage their foreign status and financial resources for control.
Personality disorders such as narcissism and antisocial personality disorder can drive problematic expat behavior. Individuals with these conditions may exhibit aggression, a disregard for social norms, and a need for admiration, often exploiting their foreign status and financial advantages in host countries.
Financial pressures and the desire for a higher standard of living can lead some expats to engage in financial schemes and scams. Relationship dynamics, especially in family-oriented cultures, can also trap expats in cycles of financial requests and emotional manipulation when their money runs out.
Yes, some expats mistake the inherent kindness, tolerance, and hospitality of host country nationals for weakness. This can lead them to exploit these virtues, often facilitated by the anonymity that comes with living abroad and the ability to move between locations.
Problematic expat behavior, even from a vocal minority, can create significant negative impacts on local communities. It can lead to exploitation, strain relationships, and negatively affect the overall perception of foreigners living in the country.
Accountability for expat actions can be challenging due to anonymity and the tendency for some to move between locations. While most expats are positive, a minority's problematic behavior can go unchecked, impacting local communities and perceptions.
Expats may exhibit problematic behavior due to personality disorders such as narcissistic personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder. Individuals with these conditions might seek admiration, try to escape past issues, or display aggression and disregard for social norms in a new country. They can leverage their foreign status and financial resources to gain attention or control.
Financial pressures can lead expats into trouble if they arrive unprepared and overspend their resources. Some may resort to scams or borrowing schemes when their money runs out. Additionally, relationship pressures in family-oriented cultures can lead to financial requests and emotional manipulation due to a lack of boundaries.
The anonymity offered by moving between locations or countries allows some expats to avoid accountability for their actions. This is sometimes enabled by the inherent kindness and tolerance of host country nationals, which can be mistaken for weakness by those looking to exploit them.
Yes, foreigners can work in the Philippines, but they need to obtain a work permit. This process is straightforward and allows individuals to legally engage in employment within the country.
No, the video emphasizes that while most expats are positive contributors, a vocal minority engages in problematic behavior. This minority can create a negative impression and impact local communities, but they do not represent the majority of expatriates.
0:01 Hey YouTube, Alex here. In today's video, we're going to talk about expats behaving badly. We're going to talk about expats behaving badly and what are the most common issues that I see when it comes to expats behaving badly in my time here in Dumaguete. I've met some wonderful guys who are from the US, mostly, but other countries as well, guys that I enjoy spending time with, guys that are fun to be around.
0:21 I've also met a lot of garbage. I thought I'd get into some of the reasons as to why I think that there are expats that are behaving badly. As far as personality disorders go, I think the most common that I've noticed here is narcissistic personality disorder. These guys, they come here because they're seeking admiration and attention. Back home, there ain't nobody here, oh, you're an expat, you're a foreigner.
0:42 And the little bit of money they have can allow them to command a lot of attention. They wouldn't be able to date in their home country. They wouldn't be able to rent a house in their home country. They wouldn't be able to live the standard of living that they live here. And in some ways, I could relate in terms of just being able to enjoy life, but in other ways, they take it a step further.
1:03 They feel like they are commanders, or they are telling people, 'Oh, look at how awesome it is. These people have to do this for me. These people have to do that for me.' And they're seeking admiration. I get the convenience, I get the standard of living. I struggle to be around people that they come here expressly because they could demand attention from people.
1:24 I struggle to be around those who have a sense of grandiosity, like, 'Oh, look at me. I'm this high-end, successful foreigner,' when really they were not that successful back home. The entitlement, 'I'm entitled to this specialized attention. I'm entitled to attention from women. I'm entitled to be waited on hand and foot because I am so special.'
1:41 The final point is this need for admiration. 'Oh man, I'm a handsome guy. Look at all the attention I get here. Look at how good I look.' They exaggerate their positive qualities to get that added level of attention. It's not a desire for attention or admiration, it is a need. They are hyper-fixated on getting attention from other people.
2:02 And I'm sure I will get a comment down below, 'Oh, you're on social media.' That's beside the point. You will encounter narcissistic expats around the world. It just comes with the territory. You've got to be prepared for it.
2:12 This next one is a common one that you've probably heard about: antisocial personality disorder. When you hear about the guy who's running from something back home, this is the one that seems to stick out the most to me. You have guys living abroad, running away from a criminal background. They're running away from child support payments. They're running away from who knows what.
2:35 They go to another country because they feel that they don't have to deal with those issues back home. I think a lot of us are running from something back home, but even more so the case when you've got somebody with this aggression, this impulsivity, and the disregard for social norms.
2:50 I've met a lot of expats around the world that have this odd kind of social rejection thing going on, like they just don't fit into normal society. So they go live in a place where they can exist outside of society. And then they also have some of these tendencies toward aggression.
3:09 On a long enough timeline, you will meet expats with aggression problems. It just comes with the territory: all types of aggression, passive aggression, overt aggression, physical aggression, all kinds of pathological behavior. It'd be one thing if it just affected them, but they're actively going out there trying to impact other people.
3:27 Some of these guys are smart. They figured out how to fly under the radar through anonymity, through avoiding accountability, and they congregate in some of these expat hotspots. They like to go to places where they feel that they can blend in, that a foreigner is not going to be sticking out or out of the ordinary.
3:47 The next point, point number two, is not about personality disorders, but rather high-conflict personalities. So not necessarily to the degree of personality disorders, but just having a tendency to have issues with high-conflict personalities.
4:01 With these types of people, they like to come to a lower cost of living country because with the lower cost of living, they have more time. They can exert influence over other people more easily. If you have a high-conflict personality and you try to go into work and argue with your boss, they're going to be able to put you in your place.
4:18 They're going to tell you, 'Hey, just no. Just do your job, dude. Whatever it is, I don't care, just do your job.' Well, if you've got some more money than the average person, it's not so easy to get into that dynamic. It's not so easy for somebody to tell you to just do your job.
4:32 You may not be permitted to work, and so they get this power dynamic. They get to throw their little bit of money around. Back home, they'd have to keep working because of the high cost of living. They wouldn't be able to leverage their money very easily because they wouldn't have enough money back home.
4:45 You need to be a multi-millionaire to even begin to exert influence over people. And even then, if you treat somebody badly back in the United States, there's ways that they can get back at you. You could get thrown out of establishments more easily. There's a way of handling that.
5:02 And there's enough people throwing enough money around in the US that one customer that's a problem may just get thrown out. May just look, 'You know what? You're more trouble than you're worth. You're not welcome to come back.' I've seen people get basically banned from different kinds of establishments. You see this in retail, for example, where if somebody does certain types of behavior, then they just get banned from that retail establishment, no questions asked.
5:24 I've seen it a little bit here, but it seems like people are more forgiving on average here. People back home, the US, not that forgiving. A lot of these people struggle with relationships back in their home country because they bring high volatility to their relationships.
5:37 They're always trying to control, they're always trying to manipulate, they are always trying to dominate. And there's a presumption here that the women are more traditional and they're more accommodating, that they will tolerate more bad behavior than the women in the United States. Whether that's true or not is besides the point, it does attract guys who have these high-conflict personalities.
6:00 I remember Bob. I met a gentleman named Bob, and he kept telling me, 'I want a subservient woman. I want a woman that's going to allow me to lead.' Is she going to allow me to lead, or is she going to try to lead me? And Bobs are a dime a dozen here, unfortunately.
6:11 You're going to meet plenty of Bobs who they come here because they want that power dynamic. They want to feel like they can control, like they can dominate. It comes from insecurity, it comes from personality problems. They know the behavior is not tolerated or normal back home, and it's not normal here.
6:31 But people that are struggling may have a stronger willingness to tolerate that behavior, where back home it's like, 'Dude, just get lost.' You meet a lot of bizarre guys looking for love here. You meet a lot of guys with obvious high-conflict personalities here that they cannot get along with other people very well back home.
6:49 And so they come here because they perceive that they can try to force people to get along with them here. In the Philippines, in particular, people are non-confrontational. They generally don't want to argue, they don't want to fight. It's, I think it's called 'pakikisama.' There's also the saving face element where people avoid shame.
7:05 So you've got this recipe for people who love conflict and want to control and dominate to try to push people to their limit. It's really unfortunate, but they know people have the internet. Bad people have the internet. Problematic people have the internet. They can learn about different cultures, they can figure out where they can go where with their small amount of money, they can engage in problem behavior that they're willing to go to therapy to treat.
7:31 Right, that's what somebody with this situation should do. Is they should go to therapy. They should seek a licensed counselor to help them sort out their internal issues. They will use this laid-back atmosphere to push people as far as they think they can get away with it.
7:47 It's really unfortunate. I don't like seeing it. I sometimes think to myself, 'Am I the only expat that likes Filipino people or likes Filipino culture, enjoys being around Filipinos?' I know that's not true. I have some great friends here that are very good to the Filipino people, but it does make me wonder sometimes when I see somebody giving a local person a hard time.
8:07 And the more I research this video, the more I figured it out. I should be clear here, the majority of expats don't fall into these categories. The majority of guys are awesome, but they're quiet, and you don't hear about them.
8:16 Are all the expats like this? Some people are wondering, are all the expats like this? No, that's not the case. It's just that the bad guys, the bad gals, are the most vocal, the most obvious, the most over-the-top.
8:26 The third reason expats will behave badly is due to financial pressure. And there's so many examples of this, I don't even know where to begin. Some people come here underprepared. They're not prepared financially. They're not prepared in terms of the economic resources they need to live here long-term.
8:41 They come here with 20 grand and they expect that to last three years, thinking they're going to live on a very small amount of money. And then an emergency comes up, an unexpected situation comes up, all kinds of different things arise, and they feel like, 'Oh no, what am I going to do?' And so they start to behave badly.
9:00 All of a sudden, they're going to start a new business. They go around town asking to borrow money. 'Oh, we're raising money.' I...
9:05 Borrow money? Oh, we're raising money. I need investors. And before you know it, they've collected a big bag of money from unsuspecting guys and gals. And then they take off and they disappear. Oh, what happened to them? Oh, I don't know, they just disappeared one day. I've heard this story numerous times in different countries. It's more common than you'd like to think.
9:20 It also shouldn't come as a surprise that in a lower cost of living country, there would be people who know this, that the cost is less and that they could come here with less money than what it would take in their home country to retire and own their own time. Basically, spend their time how they want, go out to restaurants, live in a nice neighborhood, be able to hire locals to help them with different things.
9:41 They get into this habit of living the high life, and their standard of living keeps going up. Meanwhile, inflation is raising prices, and they're not in their earning years, typically anymore. Whether they're retiring at 40, or 50, or 60, or 70, a lot of expats are not permitted to work, and so they stop working. So their income growth slows down, and yet their costs keep going up.
10:03 Oh man, it's only $20 to go out to a nice meal with a girlfriend, or it's only $15. I could do that every day. Back home, it was once a month or never occasion. I can do that every day here. And so they start to ramp up their standard of living, and their income doesn't increase with that. And so they get to a point where, oh no, the money's running out. What am I going to do?
10:23 So they start to scheme up ways of getting investors involved. Then, oh man, I've got this great business. Brett Davis said it really well: 'A local might get you for a few bucks. A foreigner will sell you a business that does not exist.' Oh yeah, man, I got a bar for sale, it's just a couple million pesos and you'll be rolling. And, 'D, I'm putting it up for sale because I'm just so busy with my other business ventures. I've got so much going on, I just don't have time for it, but you'll do really well with it. You'll have a cash flow and this and that.' And then money changes hands, and that other guy, 'I've got to go back home to handle something. I'll see you next week, man. I'll see you in a few weeks, man.'
11:01 Next thing you know, they're on a boat to another island, they're on a plane to another country, and you never see them again. I've heard of this story where somebody will rack up a bunch of debts and then they will just disappear. They borrow money from Peter, borrow money from Paul, borrow money from this guy, that guy, the other. Once the pressure starts to mount and build up, they just disappear. They just leave and run away, and nobody ever hears from them again. Nobody ever gets their money back. It's just basically gone.
11:29 This is one of those areas that is more subtle with the personality disorder. Everybody can recognize a jerk, but somebody who's a scammer, I mean, some of these people are conmen who are very experienced at ripping people off. They've been ripping people off their entire lives, and they just get better and better at it. And then sometimes they get caught.
11:47 You probably could think of an expat who has gotten in trouble for something back home, and then people find out about it. An article circulates around, everybody knows their secret. There are a fair amount of expats who behave badly, who have a checkered past. I have seen in the case of other guys, their financial situation deteriorate, and as it gets worse, they get more and more stressed out, more and more angry, more and more hard to deal with.
12:08 They blame the local people, they blame the country they're in. It's everybody else's fault but their own. They externalize their frustrations and their challenges, and it's painful to see. Right? Because I get the impression that these guys did not intend to be in this difficult situation or this difficult position in life, and yet here they are. They're in another country, they probably can't afford to go back home other than to live on the street and to beg for food.
12:38 And they may be beyond their working years. They may not be at an age where they can go back to work and find a job. And it's, it's really a sad story. Some of these guys just don't have an option. The next reason is relationship pressures. I think that relationship pressures are a major factor as to why expats behave badly.
12:55 For a fair amount of guys, they date the first woman they meet. You have some guys meeting a woman at the airport who cannot even make it into town without being in a relationship. Some guys are engaged before they meet the woman. It sounds bizarre, but some guys are that lonely and desperate back in the West.
13:14 And so because they haven't done any filtering, because they haven't gone on any first dates in some cases, they end up in a relationship with somebody who has some challenges and with a challenging background. And, and I know, 'cause I have a challenging background, the family dynamic is not healthy. And back home, it's not as big of a deal. Like for me, I just cut my family off. I'm angry for them. Check out the video on my channel if you want to know some more backstory.
13:42 But that's not so simple in a country that is family-oriented. It's harder to distance yourself from your family in a country that is very family-oriented. I've known some women who recognize the toxicity to just move islands totally. They move to a different part of the country, they get a job in a different part of the country, they go to college, they pay their way through college in a different part of the country, and they just don't want to be around the toxicity.
14:05 But other guys find themselves in a relationship with a woman who doesn't want to be away from the family, who wants to be close by. That's when the asking for money starts. That's when they request for money and the greater and greater, and it keeps accelerating up. 'Oh yeah, I'll get you some groceries this week, no big deal. Oh, you need me to fix the house? Oh yeah, sure, I got it.' And the requests for money just keep escalating, and guys say struggle with boundaries, don't know how to say no, they don't know how to set boundaries.
14:32 Maybe they're locked in, they have a child together, they're reliant on family support for childcare, for whatever reason, they haven't figured out a tactful way to move to another island. I'm not suggesting you should or shouldn't do this. For some guys, they benefit from being on a different island from their family. They might not want to be in that city or location. There may not be anything inherently wrong with that city, they just have a preference to live somewhere else.
14:56 And if they're bankrolling their expat lifestyle and they've worked really hard to get there, they may want to live in line with their preferences. And so it can have this two birds with one stone effect where they're able to be away from a toxic family. That woman may recognize it, she may be totally aware that that dynamic is not healthy. She may not have the means on her own to get away from that.
15:18 Some expats, they just don't see this. They don't think through this, and they get stuck. Now, you're just watching this train wreck in slow motion where they don't know how to get away from the situation. They may have, like I said, a major commitment in many different ways to this person, and they're stuck. And so they start to behave badly. They run away from the situation, they don't take responsibility, take accountability for being involved with this person.
15:44 They blame the person, 'Oh, they're a bad person.' This is where you hear that 'I got scammed' thing come into play a lot. 'She scammed me.' 'She scammed me.' Well, what happened? 'Well, I sent her some money.' So she didn't really scam you. 'Well, I bought this and I bought that and the other.' And I'm not saying there aren't scams here, okay? Scamming is a problem anywhere there are people. But there are so many guys that refuse to take accountability, that have a victim mindset, that everything that goes wrong is always somebody else's fault.
16:11 You will hear a lot of guys with major relationship issues externalize it, blame it on the other person. 'Oh, she did this, she did that.' When they didn't do any research on relationships here in the Philippines, they didn't watch any YouTubers or a couple that validated their beliefs. 'Oh, I'm so good because I'm a Western man. She's lucky to have me because I'm such a catch.' And the reality is far more complex than that. It's not so simple.
16:38 I think a lot of guys, they drink their own Kool-Aid and they don't want to see reality. It leads to some of the problems that I discussed in this video. There are guys that behave badly here because they think that the Philippines offers more traditional gender roles, and that that means that the women here have to put up with any range of their bad behavior. Behavior that we know would absolutely not be tolerated back home, but because of the warm and open-minded culture here, people feel pressured to tolerate behavior that is otherwise unacceptable.
17:05 Back home, I've seen it too many times to count. It's unfortunate because there are a lot of wonderful people here that deserve to be treated well. Some relationship issues are chalked up to communication differences and language barriers. You might think, 'Oh, English is perfect in the Philippines,' and I agree, it's really fantastic. With my friends who have foreign Filipino relationships, there are some subtleties that we pick up on about other expats that go against the beliefs of the Filipina. She may think things are a certain way because she's engaged with Western media, especially popular media that is designed to kind of sell a narrative, and then the reality conflicts with that narrative.
17:47 That's just the last part of it. And when it comes to expats behaving badly, they are riding on this asymmetry of information where they have a certain set of information, and their Filipino partner has a different set of information. They're relying on the gap there to engage in problematic behavior. The final reason for expats behaving badly...
18:06 The final reason for expats behaving badly is that Filipinos are known worldwide for being kind, accepting, tolerant people. Filipinos are generally very sweet; they've been very welcoming to me. I have some wonderful Filipino friends, male and female. You just feel so welcomed here by the majority of Filipinos that you meet and encounter.
18:25 The downside to this is that Filipino people are so kind, so forgiving, so generous, so sweet. They are at times too accepting of the expat who behaves badly, the expat who would be a total social reject back home, who would not have any friends, who nobody would like, nobody would get along with, nobody would tolerate. The Filipino people find it in their hearts to accept this type of person. It's sad to see it.
18:53 There are plenty of expats that would be marginalized economically or socially back home. They wouldn't be accepted into clubs or group activities, and they don't have the financial resources to be accepted in terms of social status. You could say they want to find a place where people are willing to overlook or to be forgiving. People think that because they tolerate this bad behavior, that they desire it or that they encourage it, when really the people are just trying to be hospitable.
19:25 They're trying to be inclusive, they're trying to be patient in ways that some foreigners just don't deserve. They're often so accepting of foreigners that they accept somebody who, back home, their budget is not anything special, but here can afford them a fairly comfortable lifestyle by local standards.
19:46 I think that's starting to change. I think the perception is starting to change. I think it's starting to get around that not all foreigners are well-heeled, that not all foreigners are well-to-do. In fact, a lot of foreigners in 2024 are priced out of their home countries. They simply can't afford to live there anymore. They would be in a very desperate situation if they tried to go back to their home countries.
20:08 Being poor is often looked at as a personal failure, as an internal issue, as a moral failing. Here, people are more accepting of people with economic struggles. You hear about it a lot. I've heard this story many times where a foreigner will fall on hard times. Local Filipinos will essentially take that person in and shelter them, provide food for them, help them to get sorted out and to survive.
20:36 I don't think that these foreigners in their home countries would get the same reception. I think they would rely on social services because nobody would put up with them without an obligation to do so. I generally find Filipinos to be far more forgiving than the average American, some of whom can hold grudges for a very long time.
20:54 I've known numerous Americans to hold grudges, grudges that started when they were small children, that they're elderly and retired, and those grudges are still a thing. Additionally, I found that because Filipinos are warm-hearted and tolerant and open-minded, some expat communities have this tendency to form kind of an echo chamber and regurgitate ideas that don't make any sense.
21:17 Back home, somebody would intervene. Some Americans are shameless, and they would step in and say, 'No, what you're talking about is ridiculous, disrespectful.' Depending on the context, they might get thrown out of an establishment if they are discussing certain topics in such a way that would harm the business. But I found here, there's a higher willingness to accept such individuals.
21:39 It can attract people who wish to have their toxic ideas validated because you've got on one hand the foreigners who will sit there and validate any number of absurd ideas or beliefs, and on the other hand, the Filipinos who are generally conflict-averse, who don't want to get into an argument, don't want to get into a shouting match, who just want to enjoy time with their family, to have a nice meal.
21:57 Maybe it's their day off, maybe they've had a promotion that they're celebrating. There could be any number of reasons as to why, but they generally want to live in harmony. The toxic expat will see the gracious and kind nature of the Filipino people and they will see this as a weakness, as opposed to a virtue, as opposed to kindness.
22:18 They will think, 'Oh wow, well, they'll tolerate my terrible behavior.' Some of these guys that are toxic are self-aware, some are not. But some are, some know that the way in which they behave is not acceptable in the West, but that there are other cultures that, like I said, they're more forgiving, they're more understanding, they have more sympathy for these types of people.
22:38 They know most of the people with these issues didn't develop them in an echo chamber, that they probably weren't treated very well themselves, and that's why they learned this kind of behavior. They learn this way of doing things that doesn't allow them to fit into their home country. That's why they left their home country.
22:54 Is that people won't tolerate it? People won't put up with it. They try to go to places where they are not as accountable. There's a power imbalance where they get into situations where they can leverage their modest amount of money to exert a greater sense of control. A lot of toxic people look for situations where they can dominate and control.
23:15 They find out in certain types of structures that their behavior will be quickly called out. People aren't going to want to hire you. You see this with advertising deals where a celebrity will get caught doing something bad, and then overnight their advertising deals will dry up.
23:28 They may be in a position where they've got enough money such that they can kind of eke out a still comfortable lifestyle. But for these toxic expats, they're not celebrities, they're not famous. Many of them aren't accomplished back home. But what is a small amount of money back home can get them into these situations where they can control people.
23:45 They might go for a woman who is of very, very modest means, knowing, 'Hey, there's real consequences to her leaving me. It's not so easy for her to tell me, 'Look, I'm not going to put up with this,' because she may be relying upon him to provide some additional money, to provide healthcare for her family, or to provide shelter for her family.
24:06 And she's not in a position where she could just call this behavior out in the same way that a woman in the United States could. Some expats are also exploiting the sense of anonymity where they can just come and go as they please. 'Oh, it didn't work out here. Oh, I've got a bad reputation here. I'll just go to the next island. I'll just move over there. Nobody will know my name, nobody will know my history.'
24:27 Some vloggers also have responsibility here where they sell the Philippines as this panacea of solutions to all of life's problems. And so it attracts some guys with a lot of issues that think, 'I'll just go over there and everything will be perfect. Everything in my life will be fixed. My personality problems won't be an issue. My budget problems won't be an issue. My tendency to create problems won't be an issue.'
24:46 And that's not the case, but they think it is. Right? I mean, there's a lot of vloggers out there that they find a problem, people with issues in their home country, and they sell the solution as, 'Go to another country.' And the Philippines happens to be an easy sell: gorgeous, tropical country, beautiful beaches, attractive women, fresh fruit available, a lot of variety in terms of activities.
25:12 I'm often saying there's something here for everyone. And so that does attract some of these guys that want to behave badly, that they're never going to have the budget to go to a Hawaii, to go to a Key West, Florida. Not that those places don't have their own challenges. If they were to go to those places, they wouldn't be met with kind, loving, forgiving, accepting locals like the people here in the Philippines.
25:33 Unfortunately, there are some people who come here to the Philippines to take and take and take. Some of these people have high-conflict personalities. They have this tendency to cause trouble. That's why I think my videos sometimes elicit a negative or a harsh response is that they don't want people to be able to figure them out, to have the insight into the way that they act, and for there to be transparency, accountability.
25:57 I just want to see people treat the Filipino people well. They work really hard to make this a nice place to be. The fact that we can come here and enjoy this amazing place is a testament to their character and the wonderful qualities that they embody.
26:14 Why am I making this video? Well, sometimes I see people not being very gracious or kind or considerate to the local people, and it does bother me. And I know that none of you are like that, but that there are some people like that out there. And we have to be mindful or aware that they exist and to not pretend like we are a gift to this earth as foreigners living abroad.
26:36 Let me know what you think about that in the comments. Have you seen expats behaving badly? What kind of behaviors have you seen that are a problem? Some people say, 'Don't be negative.' I don't see this as negative. I see it as neutral, as neutral observations of reality, being able to address some of these concerns.
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