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Expats can face social exclusion and rejection in the Philippines by engaging in disrespectful behavior, criminal activity, or constant complaining, leading to them being placed on 'personal blacklists' within expat communities.
This video discusses how expats can become unwelcome in the Philippines, not through official channels, but by being placed on 'personal blacklists' within expat social circles. The primary reasons for this exclusion stem from disrespectful behavior towards local people and culture, a sense of entitlement, or a failure to adapt to the local way of life. Expats who dislike the Philippines or its people, or who mistreat service staff, are likely to be ostracized by the expat community, which often values positive relationships with locals.
Further reasons for exclusion include admitting to criminal activity, regardless of its severity, and misrepresenting one's background, such as 'stolen valor' related to military service or hiding a criminal past. Expats who are overly argumentative, constantly complain about minor issues, or exhibit 'main character syndrome' also find themselves on these personal blacklists. The expat community often values relaxation and enjoyment, not confrontation or negativity, leading them to distance themselves from disruptive individuals.
The video emphasizes the importance of cultural sensitivity, humility, and respect for the Filipino people and their way of life. It highlights that while official blacklists exist, social exclusion within expat groups can be just as impactful, leading to isolation and a diminished experience in the Philippines. Maintaining a good reputation and avoiding problematic behavior is crucial for long-term integration and enjoyment of living abroad.
Expats can face rejection in the Philippines primarily due to disrespectful behavior towards local people and culture. This includes arrogance, entitlement, and a failure to adapt to the local way of life. Admitting to criminal activity or constantly complaining also leads to social exclusion.
While 'persona non grata' is an official status, expats in the Philippines often face social rejection through 'personal blacklists' within expat communities. This unofficial status arises from negative behaviors and disrespect towards locals and their culture.
To avoid being blacklisted, expats must show cultural sensitivity, humility, and respect for Filipino people and their customs. Avoid 'main character syndrome,' excessive complaining, and engaging in any criminal activity. Maintaining a positive reputation is key.
Common cultural mistakes include disrespecting local customs and people, displaying arrogance, and failing to appreciate the local standard of living. Constant negativity and arguments, especially on sensitive topics, also contribute to negative perceptions.
While official deportation is rare for minor offenses, expats can face significant social exclusion within expat circles for problematic behavior. This unofficial blacklisting can severely impact their experience and integration into the Philippines.
The expat community in the Philippines often values positive relationships with locals and a relaxed, enjoyable lifestyle. They tend to distance themselves from individuals who exhibit arrogance, negativity, or disrespect towards the local culture and people.
Expats can be excluded from social circles in the Philippines due to disrespectful behavior towards locals and culture, a sense of entitlement, or a failure to adapt. Mistreating service staff, disliking the country, or admitting to criminal activity are also common reasons for exclusion. The expat community often values positive relationships with locals and avoids confrontational or negative individuals.
To avoid social exclusion, expats should practice cultural sensitivity, humility, and respect for Filipino people and their way of life. It's crucial to avoid arrogance, constant complaining, and engaging in arguments or debates on sensitive topics. Maintaining a good reputation is key, as word travels quickly within expat communities.
Learning at least basic phrases in the local language, such as Tagalog, is highly beneficial for expats in the Philippines. While many Filipinos speak English, making an effort to learn their language shows respect and care. This effort can significantly enhance interactions and integration into the local culture.
Expats may be ostracized by their peers for exhibiting 'main character syndrome,' arrogance, or constant negativity. Engaging in excessive arguments, complaining about minor issues, or displaying a lack of appreciation for the local standard of living can also lead to social exclusion. The expat community often prefers a relaxed and positive social environment.
Building good relationships in the Philippines involves treating people with courtesy and respect, similar to how you wish to be treated. Engaging with the local culture, learning the language, and being mindful of local customs can foster positive connections. Finding a compatible social circle, even if it's a small one, is also important for a fulfilling experience.
0:06 Hey YouTube, Alex here. I was inspired to make this video because a friend of mine told me, "Why don't you do a video where you talk about how to get on somebody's personal blacklist here in the Philippines?" Some people that come here, they're unhappy with their lives. They may have a personality issue, there could be many different reasons as to why somebody ends up on a personal blacklist.
0:24 Of course, this is different than the blacklist that a lot of people think about, being barred from entry. We're not about that. Instead, we're talking about how do you get on people's bad lists, where you're excluded from the group or excluded from certain gatherings of people. Most of my subscribers are what I'd call good guy expats or good gal expats.
0:45 Reason number one is that you don't like the people. It sounds bizarre to say, but some people don't get along with the local people here. They don't like the culture for whatever reason. They find the more laid-back nature here, the relaxed pace, imperfections, or challenges here to be so problematic, rather than taking responsibility and maybe going somewhere else, going back to their home country, or going to another country entirely.
1:10 They act like they're stuck here, like there's nowhere else to go, and it's the fault of the people that they can't leave. Really, they should look at their own lives and assess why it is that I ended up in a place that I didn't want to be, rather than preparing for the future and doing more research to figure out a place that better suits them. It's not the fault of the Filipino people that you're here. If you're not a citizen, if you're not a Filipino person, then you're here based on the goodwill of the people.
1:40 Some people operate on the premise that they are a paying customer. They're not a paying customer; they are a visitor. Many of us here are on tourist visas, some may be on SRVs or 13A visas. Some people are not happy here, they take it out on the people here, and it's really unfortunate. I found that a lot of the people here just want you to have a good time here. They want you to enjoy their beautiful country, see the beautiful islands, explore the interesting urban landscapes.
2:05 Some people are just unhappy wherever they go, and they're going to take out that frustration on people in the service industry: drivers, waitresses, or waiters, cell phone service providers. All these people who are just trying to do their best, they're just trying to be productive, they're just trying to make their bosses happy. They shouldn't be the target of your frustration.
2:24 It's unfortunate that some people that don't like it here feel stuck by economic circumstances, but it's certainly not the fault of the people here that your economic situation is not what you wanted it to be. I'm not saying that that's the only reason to come here. I love this country; it's gorgeous. In my opinion, it's the most beautiful country in the world.
2:46 Some foreigners, the only reason they come here is financial. Others only come for the dating. I find that for those two reasons, if that's a primary reason or the only reason somebody comes here, they're more likely to be unhappy and, by extension, mistreat the people here.
3:04 So, if you mistreat Filipino people, if you don't like Filipino people, you're going to find yourself on some blacklists. You're going to be excluded from a lot of groups who they actually get along with the people here. They look at it as a wonderful place to be and to spend time. They've got a lot of Filipino friends, partner, girlfriend, wife, husband.
3:21 They don't want to see the people being mistreated. Sometimes they think there should be a required cultural sensitivity training class for foreigners wishing to live here. They could learn better about how to get along with the Filipino people. This is something that a number of the groups see. They will exclude you if you are inconsiderate or you don't like Filipino people.
3:38 Most of my friends here have Filipino friends. Most of my friends here have Filipino girlfriends or wives, maybe sister-in-laws, nieces, nephews, brother-in-laws, father-in-laws. Some foreigners do tend to have a main character syndrome going on where they think this is their place, the people are here to entertain them, to serve them.
3:56 And that's not the case. If you find yourself on the outs with any group, you're probably not going to find your way back in. Some guys that are bad actors take this as a sign, "I need to move islands." Word travels fast. People know each other, especially in the vlogging community. They talk with one another, "Oh man, this guy was really inconsiderate to a Filipino person who's really disrespectful. Watch out for him."
4:19 And you could find yourself excluded from groups that you've never even met before. Now, I'll never tell you I'm the perfect foreigner. Sometimes I do get stressed out here. I don't take it out on the people. Ultimately, it's not their fault.
4:30 One of the challenges that I have here is that there is at times inclement weather. Is that the fault of the people? Absolutely not. They don't control the weather here. You can see in the background, the clouds are rolling in. Okay, I might get rained on. Is that the fault of a person who lives here? Absolutely not. Taking these frustrations out on people is just so unreasonable.
4:49 To prevent being on the out group, I recommend studying the culture, trying to understand the culture, trying to meet people halfway, trying to think about where they're coming from. There are foreigners that once get on enough personal blacklists, they will find life here to be so isolating. They will ideally leave.
5:06 This is something that people who want to live here should be aware of. Especially in a city like Dagupan with tons of expats, we all talk, we all communicate, we all know each other, or we know people that know each other, or we have mutual friends. And if you get spotted being rude to somebody, and it's on video, that video will circulate like crazy.
5:24 It's bad enough that you did it in the first place, but to add insult to injury, you have belittled or insulted a Filipino person, and it's on camera, such that that video will get circulated around, which is additional embarrassment for that person. There is a culture of saving face throughout Asia. People care about their public reputation.
5:43 You can't go around slandering people. You can't go around treating people badly. It's even more the case if they're a business person, maybe they're a prominent businessman, maybe they're highly regarded in the community. And even if they're not, people don't like to see you mistreat Filipinos. This goes throughout the country.
5:58 I've definitely gotten the "Oh, can you believe this?" or "Can you believe that?" from some foreigners. And I'm thinking, why are you here if it really bothers you that much? There are so many other places to go in the world. There's a lot to love about this country, there's a lot to love about the people.
6:11 Some of these guys that are bad actors, they think I'm going to impress this foreigner by being disrespectful or inconsiderate or making a sly or sarcastic remark because that foreigner doesn't immediately blow up or make a big deal out of it. You think, "Oh, they don't care," or maybe, "They agree with me." That's not the case.
6:25 People here are generally non-confrontational. And I find a lot of the foreigners that last here, succeed here, adopt a non-confrontational nature about them. They may not say something to you directly, they may not engage and argue back or this and that. But they're probably going to go around telling people they know, "Hey, this guy, watch out for him. He's bad news. Don't hang out with him. He doesn't like the people here. He thinks he is superior."
6:49 And he thinks that he is extraordinary, like he is playing some kind of status game where he thinks that he's in charge. And that's not the case. It's not the case at all. I don't want to associate with such people. I don't want to be around such people. I don't want to be seen with such people. But most importantly, I don't want to hear that stuff.
7:03 Okay, the people here have been very good to me. I enjoy being here a lot, and I don't want to be known as somebody who entertains these kinds of conversations. I think they're unproductive, I think they're unfair, I think they're unreasonable. They don't have a place here.
7:17 Finally, the local people are the reason you enjoy a high standard of living here. The people who work in the restaurants, who work in the hotels, who work in the tourism industry. The fact that you can come here and enjoy a beautiful tropical country on what amounts to a budget-friendly trip for most people coming from the US or UK is a testament to the hard work of the people here, who are often working long hours to make it happen.
7:41 So, have to put yourself in their shoes. Could you imagine what it would be like if people of extraordinary means came to your country and started mistreating your people? I found the people here to be generally very helpful. They don't ask for much in return: just be polite, be friendly, pay your bills. And if you're a person who's just not friendly, you're probably not going to be happy here.
8:03 The next way that you can get on a personal blacklist is by admitting criminal activity. Now, I am not a mind reader. I can't figure out if what you're saying is true or what you're saying is not true. But if an expat admits to me that they have committed a crime, I don't care how small the crime is, I don't care how big the crime is. That's a quick way to get on my personal blacklist. I do not associate with criminals of any kind here in the Philippines. I'm not looking to change that. I don't want to be around him.
8:27 I don't want to be known as somebody who hangs out with criminals. There are many laws here that have to be followed. There are a number of laws here that stick out to me that are not rules back home, but that we have to follow here. I'm not going to go through those. If you're somebody that you're unsure about a certain law or rule, I suggest reaching out.
8:44 I suggest reaching out to a licensed Philippines attorney who can guide you through understanding those laws. You might ask them what are the most commonly broken laws by foreigners, and what are the medium broken laws by foreigners. They can inform you about less common laws that foreigners break, giving you a sense of what is and is not allowed. If you're unsure about certain activities, you can run them by a licensed attorney and ask if you need a license or a visa. You really want to know in advance and be proactive about your plans.
9:16 Even things that you think are totally fine, or not obviously bad, may not be allowed. If I find out somebody is engaging in any type of rule-breaking, I immediately distance myself from them. I don't invite them to my social circle or make plans with them because I don't want to be known as endorsing that activity. I want to keep coming back to the Philippines for years and years, and I don't want anything to interrupt that.
9:45 This is a beautiful country with so much to see and do, and I don't want my plans to be interrupted. I've had expats admit to me that they've committed crimes casually and then go around telling other expats about it. We just shake our heads, not only because they did something against the rules, but because they're bragging about it. Unfortunately, some people who engage in this behavior are proud of it, which doesn't make sense to me.
10:09 These people quickly find their way onto my personal blacklist, where they're not welcome to hang out or join social groups. We don't want to be around them, and we don't want to be known as endorsing or entertaining that kind of behavior. Most of us want to stay here for a long time and don't want to be known as someone who doesn't follow the rules.
10:30 We're here based on the goodwill of the people, and to maintain that goodwill, we want to follow the rules and laws. Some people just don't know how to behave. We're not talking about jaywalking; we're talking about real problematic behavior that you wouldn't want to be associated with, even in your home country. It's a privilege to be here, not a right.
10:56 It's really unfortunate that some people abuse that privilege. I don't want to be around them, and none of my friends want to be around them. You'll quickly be excluded from our group if you want to engage in this kind of behavior. For all the reasons listed above, I also look at it like this: if somebody is willing to commit a basic crime, they may want to escalate and do more serious things in the future.
11:19 I don't want to be around that, and I don't want to potentially support that. We don't want to associate with somebody who might get sent back home. If they do get sent back home, they may struggle to ever come back, even for a visit. I don't want to invest in relationships with people who are short-term thinkers, believing the rules don't apply to them.
11:36 That's not the case, and I'm a person who likes to follow the rules, as are all my friends. If you want to filter out the bad guys, and you're an expat or would-be expat concerned about people you might run into, one way to filter is to distance yourself if somebody admits to breaking a rule. You don't have to be ugly or get upset; just distance yourself.
11:56 Some of these people are a bit unhinged and not all the way there, if you know what I mean. You can still distance yourself without hanging out with them, making plans with other people, or including them. You don't have to let them know where you live or what you like to do for fun. You can just distance yourself from this type of person without making a big deal out of it.
12:19 Who knows what might happen with this type of person? Finally, you do see some guys who get sent back home. It's unlikely they'll ever be able to come back, even for a visit. A lot of us don't want to get sent back home, and we don't want to be unable to visit these beautiful islands and interact with these friendly people. It's best to set those boundaries and protect yourself.
12:38 Nobody is looking out for you like you are, anywhere in the world. Don't feel like you're being high and mighty. I find it's better to find reasons to disqualify people from my friend group than to try to find reasons to be more inclusive when it comes to other expats. Plenty of awesome locals are here, but expats can be an odd bunch.
12:58 It's very important for foreigners to follow the rules while they are here. Part of what will allow me to do that is to have a good track record when it comes to rule-breaking. I've met foreigners who, not too long after I met them, told me about breaking the rules. There are some very obvious ones if you're unfamiliar.
13:15 I suggest checking out Mike of Mike's Philippine Retirement; his channel covers some of this stuff very well. The next part of the liar component is the issue of stolen valor. I personally have not encountered this, but I have heard other friends encounter it where somebody will misrepresent their military service.
13:30 They may have not even been in the military at all, or they exaggerate. They had a standard rank but are telling people they were a Navy SEAL. They may change the branch entirely, or the duration of service. Maybe they were in for four years, but they say they were in for ten or twenty. They misrepresent where they served.
13:50 Maybe they served domestically but portray themselves as having served all over the world. Maybe they didn't see combat, but they describe themselves as a seasoned combat veteran. There are all kinds of different ways somebody could misrepresent their service. It bothers me because my grandfather served for about 20 years in Korea and Vietnam and made many sacrifices.
14:12 Our family made a lot of sacrifices, and it's really harmful to military members when people misrepresent their service. If I were to find out somebody had misrepresented their service, it would be an immediate disqualification for my personal blacklist. I would not want to be around this individual. I think stolen valor is extremely harmful and detrimental to our service members, and I can't stand for it.
14:38 I don't want to be known as somebody who endorses that or is friends with people like that. I would tell all my friends, especially those who have served in the military, 'Hey, this person is misrepresenting their service.' Now, I personally haven't served, but there are certain things that are kind of telltale signs.
14:53 Typically, they exaggerate a lot. The accomplishments they describe are extraordinarily rare. They might even disclose things that a person in that situation might not be legally allowed to disclose, depending on circumstances. It's not foolproof; I'm not saying I know immediately when somebody is doing this.
15:13 If I were to find out about this, it would be an immediate personal blacklisting for me. Military members make a lot of dramatic sacrifices in terms of time, personal freedom, health, and sometimes more. We should be very cognizant of those who wish to harm that reputation and the respect associated with our military.
15:34 Many Filipinos have made sacrifices in the US military, and it can be harmful to Filipino people as well. Some people will misrepresent their criminal background. They say, 'Oh yeah, I've just had a little thing here, a little thing there,' and then it comes out they have a lengthy rap sheet. There are people living abroad who do have a criminal background and are using expat life as an escape.
15:58 They're escaping accountability, where in their town or city they're known as deceptive or as a person with a bad reputation. They think, 'Well, if I just go to this other country, nobody will know about that stuff.' Maybe they use a fake name; I wouldn't be surprised if some of these people use a fake name.
16:15 I've had people be very, very guarded. This kind of falls into this category: if somebody's too guarded, it raises red flags for me. If they won't talk about very basic details, always saying, 'I can't tell you that,' then that's a red flag for me. Because if they're not able to disclose very basic information, I'm not asking for people's addresses or for them to tell me every single detail of their life.
16:40 But the majority of people that I've met here are fairly open about their lives in a normal way. I respect people's privacy; I don't pry and don't push people to disclose painful things. But if we're talking about very basic information, then it does raise red flags to me. It's not something where I immediately put them on a blacklist, but now I'm kind of looking like, 'Is there something here that I need to be aware of?'
17:04 In a small town like Dagupan, everybody knows each other, and inevitably, things will come out. It's not easy to hide a criminal background, especially if you've done particularly egregious activities. People are going to find out; it's going to get around town. People are going to know, and they're not going to want to associate with that type of person.
17:22 A lot of expats here have a lot of time on their hands, so if you're a person with a bad record, you may be stuck keeping to yourself because you may be unwelcome when people find out.
17:34 You may be unwelcome when people find out about it, and you have to be prepared for that. As far as I know, none of my good friends here have any issues like that. But don't be surprised if you meet people with a past here; they are at least as common as you'd think. I say this a lot: most people do not become expats because things were working out for them back home.
17:51 This is different from the expat who moves overseas for a work contract. Somebody's moving for other reasons, typically they've got some things in their past. I have some tragedy in my past that I tried to put behind me by moving halfway around the world, but we all have our own reasons. Some of them are not good.
18:07 The next reason that we have for you here is that the expat is too argumentative. This is a personality issue. People range on a scale from disagreeable to agreeable, and the most disagreeable people tend to be those who are behind bars. The most agreeable people tend to be extraordinary pushovers. Most of us tend to be somewhere in the middle, like somewhere in the mid-range.
18:31 Some expats are so argumentative, so disagreeable, that they do end up on a personal blacklist. I can think of some that I've met; they always want to debate American politics. "Oh, let's talk about politics." "Let's talk about religion." I don't want to talk about these topics with the majority of people. You're not going to win these type of discussions, these zero-sum discussions where there's a winner and a loser. I don't care to engage in these conversations.
18:57 Do I have my personal beliefs? Sure, I think we all do. They're just not of interest to me. But some guys, they know these are contentious topics. They know that they are likely to rile people up, to stress people out, and they love it. Talking to some of these guys is like wrestling with a pig in the mud. You think you're winning until you realize the pig likes it.
19:17 There are a lot of argumentative, disagreeable expats out there. I use the politics or religion example, but yeah, I mean, I have definitely encountered some expats that they want to debate religious topics. I'm not interested in that. That and none of my friends are either. If I find somebody that always wants to debate religious topics, they're going to end up on my personal blacklist.
19:36 I'm not opposed to people having faith. I have a lot of friends that have different religious backgrounds. I'm friends with people of many different faiths, probably most the major ones you could think of, and then I also have friends with no faith at all and everything in between. I'm not interested in the guy that wants to say, "We're going to talk about faith today." No, no, I don't want to debate there. I'm not interested in debates in relation to this topic.
19:58 I'm often saying, if I wanted to argue with Americans, I would just go back home to the United States. Back in the United States, there are plenty of Americans that would debate me on these topics all day long. They would like for nothing more than to discuss. I didn't come here to the Philippines to argue. And if I meet somebody that all they want to do is argue or to debate, they're on my personal blacklist.
20:20 I don't care to argue. If I wanted to argue, I would go to law school, and I would get paid to argue. In a few years, I would be hired by people solely to argue. Am I good at it? I admit that I am. I don't care to do it. It's stressful, it's annoying, I get a headache. I don't want to participate in that activity, and none of my friends do either.
20:40 A lot of the guys that I'm friends with here, they came here to retire. They worked a stressful job back home, they had a business, they dealt with investments. They're not here to debate and to argue and to win. They're here to relax, they're here to have a good time. They might be here to engage in adventure, they might come here for dating, they might come here for financial reasons. They didn't come here to fight with other people. They didn't come here to, "Oh, I'm going to teach this guy this and that." No, no, no.
21:06 And fortunately, not everybody here is like this, but there's a non-zero amount of expats that they love to debate. They love to attempt to start arguments, to win arguments. It's not personal; they pick the arguments with anybody and everybody. They go out looking for a debate, they go out looking for an argument. I think they've got some interpersonal issues. I think these guys tend to not pick up on social cues very well, and they tend to be very isolated.
21:29 I've noticed some guys like this where they run everybody off, and they're always trying to meet a new friend. They're always trying to meet somebody new. They can't maintain relationships with other expats because they inevitably end up running them off. They turn everything into debate, and most people just don't have the energy for that. So when I meet somebody like this, I'm not telling you what to do, I steer clear of them. I'm polite. You don't know what's going on upstairs. I'm certainly not obligated to entertain these conversations, these arguments.
21:57 I wish them the best. This is a type of expat that will quickly end up on my personal blacklist. The next point is the complainer. Okay, so for me, I consider it a blessing to be here in the Philippines. There's a lot of interesting experiences I've had here that are very positive. I try to generally keep it positive. I'm happy to be here. If I wasn't happy to be here, I could fly to Manila right over there, and I could fly back to my home country. I could fly to some other country in Southeast Asia.
22:25 I try not to complain. Do I have stressful days sometimes? Yes, I'm not perfect. Some people are incessant complainers from the moment they land here. "Oh, it's too hot, and my hamburger isn't the way that I had it back home." And they have this endless list of complaints, they have this endless list of frustrations. They're never satisfied. There are some people that go out looking for problems.
22:44 For my friends, this type of person will quickly get on a personal blacklist. All the guys here, not most, but all the guys here I'm friends with, they enjoy it here. They like the people, they like the culture, they like the opportunity to have different activities. They like dating here. They've got many different reasons to enjoy their time here in the Philippines, and they try to minimize complaining. Are there times where we have difficult circumstances? Sure, anywhere you live in the world, you're going to have your stressful days.
23:12 But for the most part, we try to avoid complaining. We try to keep it positive, upbeat, uplifting. There might be some challenging times, and we can get together and help pick each other back up. But for the most part, it's awesome to be here. I mean, I really like it here. My social life is fantastic. Secure. I could say many, many more good things about the Philippines than negatives. But some people, they just don't like it.
23:35 I don't know if it's they didn't do enough research. I don't know if it's an adaptability thing. I don't know if it's they're not happy with their budget. I don't know if it's they feel priced out of their home country. For any different number of reasons, some people are not happy here, and they can't just keep it to themselves. Like, that's a different set of issues. But some people, they want to externalize it. "Oh, hey man, can you believe that this?" And I just don't like that.
23:55 And those types of people quickly get excluded from the group because chances are they're not going to stop. They're not going to ever stop running out of issues. They're not going to stop running out of complaints or frustrations, things they don't like. And it's not enough to solve these issues. And if you don't like it, you can go home. For all of us that are foreigners here, we've got a home country, we've got a place we can go back to where we speak the language, where we know how things operate. We may not like it, but at least we belong there.
24:21 So yeah, for complainers, my group has no sympathy for this type of people. We don't want to be around them. A lot of it is just having flexibility. If you don't like a specific city, you might try a different city. Not every city or location in the Philippines is for everybody. Some people like a certain way of doing things, and a certain city they go to is not for them, and that's okay. But to stick around and to belabor the point, to go on and on about how it's not this and it's not that, and this isn't right, and that's not right, you're really going to wear people's good graces down.
24:54 And it's going to get around that you complain and that you don't like it, and people are not going to include you. They're not going to welcome you into their group. They might change locations, and you don't get the detail, and you're off on your own. Unfortunately, like I said before, earlier in the video, some people, some expats do not pick up on social cues. They don't know how to communicate with others. They didn't get the training, maybe they weren't socialized properly at a young enough age where they learned how to talk to people.
25:21 They don't understand most people don't like complainers. Most people don't like arguers. Yeah, they just need to find a different place. They need to figure out a different current fit for them. So anyway, this has been five reasons as to how you can end up on a personal blacklist. This is not the official blacklist; this is more about navigating group dynamics and how some people just don't fit in and some of the reasons why a person might get excluded from a group.
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