it started with just a conversation to me it's the perfect place and I always came back to the dumag Getti area I was waking up in the middle of the night thinking about it going what am I doing
it's worth it for people to find things that they truly enjoy doing we're Dum Dums guys are going to find that they are grateful to be with you they're happy to be with you you can get into trouble
with these kind of girls don't chase the trophy wife I could be gone for a month come back I know she's going to be there it's more fun in the Philippines guys hey YouTube Alex here in tonight's video
I have for you an interview with my good friend Chad Foster of Chad Foster explorers he's been here in the Philippines for a couple of years and has videos covering a variety of topics on this channel so fortunate
to get time with him I hope you enjoy tonight's interview without further Ado let's get into it I want to welcome my new friend Chad we've had a chance to have some great discussions here I'm sure most of
you are familiar with this channel Chad Foster explores I've been learning so much from him Chad if you could just go ahead and introduce yourself and share a bit about your channel you bet yeah yeah Chad thanks for
the intro man appreciate it nice to get together again from Canada been living in the US and came out to the Philippines almost 2 years ago and started a YouTube channel when I first came here yeah kind of
life-changing experience to say the least from I plan to come out here for 9 months and then get back to life back in the US here I am almost two years later and I don't see uh changing anytime
soon so it's good in all of the expad destinations I've been to around the world I've always met people that told me yeah well I thought I was coming for like a month and here I am years later
it's humorous to me just how often I hear that line of thinking a lot of people that I meet here in dumag they're at traditional retirement age they're 65 they're drawing a pension they're drawing Social Security I think
that guys like us are atypical here I think that's changing but do you ever feel like you get judged for being an atypical guy in terms of age no I I would say not at all I'd say like
speaking of like forers that I've met especially like here in duetti I found it to be easy to connect with people people are curious about this is my experience and I know people sometimes complain about trying to meet
people here and other foreigners being not welcoming but that hasn't been my experience I've made friends of all ages I mean you're 31 my friend Jerry is 82 and I met him here and everything in between I think
it's great as far as like Filipinos go they might make comments that you're really young it's kind of cool it's like I am I didn't know I was young so you get a lot of that like I'm the
young guy in town now you're the baby in town that's definitely reassuring I think more and more young guys are curious about it they want to come check it out you had a career prior to coming here I
find a lot of us in the US were in a rush where have this kind of rat race Vibe going on what was the moment like when you realize you had changed from that rush rush rush mentality to
a more laid-back calmer version of yourself right away man I was in the route race it was years in the making so like I I had a inclination that I wanted to come to the Philippines years before I
came it started with just a conversation with a cooworker who's from the Philippines and I was burnt out working in healthcare and so I was like not frantically but I was busting my ass to try to figure out
how I was going to pull away from work to be able to come over here and take a big side of relief uh so I worked on investing in real estate and getting a couple of rentals together and
then and it was a lot I mean I was burning the candle on both ends and so when I arrived here in the Philippines it was an immediate oh wow I'm here and you know seeing the cost of
living right away and how it takes the pressure off and the bit that I was earning from my rentals was enough to carry me carry me along and the pressure was gone man so it was kind of an
instant thing and then YouTube came around and started to become my new focus and but even when I'm really busy with that it doesn't feel like work half the time like I'm not I don't love editing stuff and
there's days where you're just grinding it out like it's not it is work for sure but compared to working in nursing homes and and some of the drawbacks of my career I was grateful for it but you know
it's so different and so yeah man it's been a stress relieving nothing but 95% positive change in my life coming over here for sure that's so relatable and I think you know sometimes some people might be like ah
Chad he's a young guy why would he want to live in a retirement community I've gotten that too I grew up in a retirement community you've obviously spent time around a number of senior citizens so this isn't a
population that is totally foreign to you right I know that you've traveled around the Philippines you've been to different parts what makes you pick dumag over your other options good question because coming back here after traveling around for
about a year and a half and getting a good feel for Manila subu city even like Province areas that I really liked late Billy run Shira bohal a bunch of places I needed to think like where was going
to be the right fit for me and I always came back to the dumag Getti area it always felt like home I think the people I connected with here to me there's so many advantages of living in this
area and now that I'm back I'm seeing more and more reasons like more reasons why I made the decision but I'm even more excited cuz I've found some new things even since coming back here so easy to make
friends here I find I'm a nature lover I love exploring I love getting on scooter and heading up into the jungle it's got amazing waterfalls hiking um dumag Getti has everything that a city for me that I would
need in the city for shopping or just whatever there's restaurants the Boulevard's pretty cool and it's busy though so you can get out of dumag Getti like it is loud and there's traffic and congestion and then you have
Valencia 25 minutes away which is for me perfect it's a little quaint little town it's the back the backyard there is incredible that's your jungle backyard and then you roll down the hill where or if you're in duetti
you roll down the coast and you have D and you have snorkeling and reef and there's day trips Galore there's so many gems there's good food and the more time you spend here and you meet people that introduce
you to a new restaurant if you love ethnic food there's food from all over the world here it's good Filipino food too food has always been an issue for me when I'm out in the province so I needed
to live in a place where I had access to like in my opinion good food and dumag Getti has so many good options same with Valencia and dwin good coffee shops it's got everything and then it's got the
airport it's got a ferry port so you can go in any direction it's easy to travel from it's Central honestly it's to me it's the perfect place so yeah the drawbacks are minimal for this area so yeah that's
I I could go on and on about honestly why I why I like this area I feel the same way about dagate I've been to several different parts of the Philippines and it's like I felt like the three
little bears ah this one's to this and this one is not enough of this and here it's everything it's I've got the food I've got the transportation if I want to go on a vacation from my vacation I
can do that that's so interesting um I could go on and on also about how much I like it here you mentioned that you originally planned to come for 9 months can you share a bit on what that
moment was like when you decided I don't want to just stay here for 9 months I like it so much this is my life now yeah okay so I mean I had many moments during my first nine months
here where I mean I didn't want it to end I wanted to keep exploring I had a date in mind that I wanted to go back and see my family and and go back to my place in Florida
and check on it I also wanted to go back and save some money so I mean I was doing the YouTube but you know not a lot of money coming in and I was spending more than I was
making so I wanted to go back and uh work for a little bit I was going to move back into one of my places in Florida get back into the rehab scene and start saving so it hit me
the hardest and the most recogniz ible about 4 weeks after returning to my life and I was playing options I was getting everything lined up to go back to work I was like awake at night like I was
waking up in the middle of the night thinking about it going what am I doing I'm just dreaming about getting back to Philippines and continuing on that adventure and continuing to explore and figure out what kind of a
life can I set up there and so at that 4-we point I I made the decision to take a leap of faith and rather than I'm not recommending it but I mean I had the rental income but rather
than going back to work and saving I'm like I'm just going to focus on YouTube and and really put my efforts into it and try to turn it into more of a I guess more of a job more
of a business and take it serious to where I can hopefully earn enough to make it my my new career my new job you know plus the my rentals and that's what I did I came back and and
it's things started to pick up more and more and it seems to be trending in the right direction so yeah so chat I know you've been here in the Philippines for a couple of years now and I think
that has given you a deeper understanding of the culture and the lifestyle how has dumag changed since you first arrived here some of that could be your perception and some of that could be the reality I mean the
most noticeable are the physical changes like when I first came here one thing that I noticed was it I can see there's construction they're building new restaurants and they're building new things which is a sign of growth and
a sign of and some of these areas are like they seem kind of trendy and and nice and the architecture is pretty nice and so you kind of see the direction that things are going and I'd say over
the course of a couple of years from the first time I came here it's just continued on that trajectory of going up in a for me a positive direction pouring money into certain areas um actually many areas you
see people building like residential homes and apartments and things like that there's pretty high demand I think for rentals here not just from foreigners but also Filipinos moving here there's work opportunities here but culturally and as far as
the vibe here I haven't noticed too many changes I mean I found it to be friendly from the beginning like you mentioned before there's a pretty big retirement community here and I think the vibe with amongst retired guys
is pretty chill like they're done with the rat race they're here to relax and enjoy so that's kind of the vibe you pick up on Filipino people are naturally pretty chill and it's not a huge City so it's
not like a Manila Vibe where it can be a little rat racy in Manila right it can be a typical big city so you're not getting that pace is still relatively slow here so the changes here are more
just development I'm noticing new restaurants and new new buildings maybe more people moving in probably more foreigners I've noticed more younger foreigners I was at the gym the other day and the gym was primarily there's a few guys
like in their 30s a couple guys in their 40s I'm in my 40s and I'm like what is going on my yeah this is a gym closer to Valencia and so it seems like there's a younger crew coming
in here I didn't get all their stories but maybe they're digital Nomads I don't know if some of them are early retired I'm not sure there's changes like that but not in a bad way for me in a
good way there's new restaurants that I found that I love so it's like that's cool that's a good change opening up this new gym that I started going to that's a good change fixing things up there's a lot
of lot of cool spots here man and I I like the direction it's going in for sure I absolutely agree there's this optimistic vibe in town There's this sense that tomorrow is going to be better than today I
think that's so important for us as younger expats our mental well-being right we just have this sense man things are really happening here that's how I feel when I come to dagate in spite of the fact that it's
known for being a place people go to chill out it's improving there's all these new changes and new things coming up the Philippines is rapidly developing changing to a little bit of a different tag you were a successful
guy back in the US you had your rentals you had your career I think there's some of us wondering why would a guy like Chad who's on the up and up in his career and his business why wouldn't
he just stay in the US right why wouldn't he pursue the American dream why is he taking this massive risk in some people's minds to go Halfway Around the World to the Philippines yeah easy to answer that for
me it was a grind again I'm grateful for my job that I had and I worked hard to to go back to school to get it and it was a good opportunity to to work and save and meet
some cool people and all of that but there wasn't a day that went by that I got up and went to work that I didn't think okay how am I going to what's my exit plan you know like
I wasn't excited to go to work it was just I had to go to work I had to pay the bills and I and I had some goals for savings and investing so that's what drove me for my
life there but it drove me because I had a vision of a life that had way more balance and I had way more time to do the things that I wanted to do I couldn't get there fast enough
like I was just go go go so I can get to a place and coming to a place where the cost of living gets cut in you know way more than half man that frees up a lot of
time and it allowed me to try something different it allowed me to try YouTube and see if I can earn money doing something I enjoy more something that I get up and I'm excited to dive in and like
be creative and meet new people and I love it way more it's not like it's easy and I still have a long way to go to make it like what I want as far as income or whatever but
I love it I'm excited I feel like there's no ceiling I feel like I'm in control of it it's up to me how much I put into it and it's worth it it's worth it for people to find
things that they truly enjoy doing there's a rat race here there's a lot of Filipinos that are hustling to try to earn but because you come here earning US Dollars it allows you like we have we're lucky to
have an opportunity if you can retire here and have the income or if you're working earning foreign dollars all of a sudden you're at this unique advantage and it creates a lifestyle opportunity here that's unbelievable it's awesome absolutely
I think that's such a great point that there's this mindset shift I think a lot of younger guys they're looking at social media they're seeing some of these influencers living these I'll use a southern word here High futin
Lifestyles where they went from nothing to now they're driving a fancy car and they've got the home in the nice neighborhood but it's still a grind they don't own their time their time is already decided for because they
have to make those p payments what can you share in terms of a mindset shift for the younger guys who they see that stuff they're not thinking about their Financial Freedom they're not thinking about hey I want to
be like Chad and own some rental properties where I can just jet off I can go move to Southeast Asia Latin America can you speak to the mindset shift that maybe you went through and maybe you never had
that mindset shift maybe that was something from a young age you cultivated this I want to pursue Financial Freedom yeah so I wouldn't say it was at a young age it hit me a little bit later so I
went through a period of wanting the things wanting I remember having this old car that cost me like $1,000 and then I put a stereo system in it that costs more than the car and my family was like
what are you doing like I think I was like delivering pizzas or something and like saving my money to buy a stupid stereo system I was just sewing into music at the time and they're like that's the dumbest
you know investment ever like what are you doing working so hard to put that money into and I remember like the feeling of like guilt I forget there's a term for it like when you spend a bunch of
money and then you feel like so dumb for basically doing that and I remember like returning all of it and losing some of the like there was a return fee and then the labor to install it and I
remember going this was the dumbest thing ever over time it started to I started to recognize more and more you know you don't get a lot of Happiness out of things right out of like material things and also
I'm not happy when I'm grinding and just work work work all the time and you feel like you don't have time to enjoy you know you don't have the time to do things that you want to do and
you don't really have time to even enjoy the things that you spend the money on I was even like fussing over dumb material things you know when you're working in your house you're caught up in the keep up
with the Joneses what's the latest craze what's the latest countertop material and things like that and I remember like spending weeks going to different places and just worrying about like what freaking countertops I'm going to get where it
really didn't matter that much I mean you get you definitely can get more rent for a nicer place but my point is it doesn't have to be like I was so picky about all this stupid stuff right and
I over time saw this vision of myself having more time and more freedom and so I started looking at my money being spent into things that were going to earn me my money right like if I buy a
house I want a house hack I want to find a way to turn my property into a revenue stream that was the sole purpose of me buying I mean I could have bought something totally different a big house
I could afford the mortgage payment but I wouldn't be able to earn anything from it so my whole point was is there a rental option here does it have a garage that I can convert into an apartment and
in my case it it was like a double lot and my vision was fix up this fixer upper refinance it and then build another build like a guest house and rent it out I got lucky like I got
lucky with the market and the timing and bought when it was low and then everything went up and interest rates were low but my think again was I want to turn this into an opportunity for me to find
Freedom and find Financial Freedom find happiness it's just been that way ever since and coming here you can sort of balance the financial freedom and savings but also have a high quality of life because of the cost of
living that's why this makes sense for me I do like those things I like Comfort I like certain nice things doesn't have to be fancy I don't need marble floors and staying at palaces I don't need anything like
that but comfortable and certain things that maybe I'm used to and I can I can afford it here I can find the right balance for me where I have the time the freedom I recommend everyone to stop chasing
those material things like you said in the the question or the intro to this topic happiness does not come from obtaining goods and keeping up with the Joneses and buying a depreciating asset it's a fancy car you love
the car when you drive it for the first few days but after a few weeks it's just a freaking car gets dirty got to wash it and then you start thinking about how much money you're socking into it
and then you start to resent and hate the car you know what I mean it's not worth it it's just not that's all I have to say about that I grew up in a lake town and this common
phrase that would go around I know cuz my grandfather bought a boat the two best days of boat ownership are the day you buy the boat and the day you sell the boat and everything in between sucks you're
paying Primo for that gasoline on the lake you've got to pay the docking fee you've got to pay somebody to clean it or go get up on Saturday morning when you're supposed to have the day off and go
wash your boat it just becomes this giant time and money sync the joy of things wears off very quickly and then you're left with the reality we talked a bit about dating 2third of young men in the western
democracies are single there's a lot of content coming out about the guys going overseas to date historically there have been some negative feelings about it oh she's a male order bride what do you think young men have to
gain or to benefit in terms of the differences in dating here in the Philippines versus DA dating back home where we're from like everything there's pros and cons to everything and I don't want to say that like dating
and relationship opportunities here are perfect it's not like this paradise where you can just show up and they're they're at the airport chasing you pick me pick me like it's not like that well in a way it kind
of is but the problem is the ones that are waving at you and throwing themselves at you that a lot of foreigners end up with are not really the type that are not going to be like that genuine
let's just say wife material or whatever cuz there's a lot of P Falls here too however there are many many good ones too and what I think is unique about philippinas and the opportunity to meet a good partner
here right off the bat I think you're going to find being with someone you're going to find that they are grateful to be with you they're happy to be with you they appreciate you they will do things to
show you their appreciation for being with you everyone talks about they're caring and and they'll look after you that's definitely true and I think there's there's 's definitely a thing that a lot of Filipinas do desire a relationship
with a foreigner and a lot of it's genuine and there's just culturally here they're drawn to foreigners there's even those that don't need money my buddy is dating a girl who's wealthy in the Philippines she just always wanted
to be with a foreigner she just likes the idea of it there's other reasons why so culturally you're coming to a place where you're appreciated and there's a lot of draw to being with a foreigner there's a lot
of pitfall fals there's a lot to learn you can find yourself in bad situations if you're not careful yeah whatever age you are there's a lot of good Filipinas here for you for older guys that experience agism back
home where your value go like the way people look at you they value you less as you get older they look at you as someone that's not as capable as you get older they look at you this is
just generalizing agism but it's a thing in the west I mean I experienced it a lot just working with older people and get hearing their stories you're not looked at like looking for romance and looking to have fun
and be youthful is almost frowned upon like you should dress old and act old if you're old where here flips upside down your value goes up you're appreciated you're looked at as someone that has wisdom and maturity and
a lot of younger girls you know within a range have genuine intentions and would love to be with an older mature guy for those reasons they don't want the games they don't want the young immature guy that they
can't TR TR or whatever they'd love to be with an older guy with experience and learn from and it's culturally accepted here so what a unique opportunity for a guy to come here and feel appreciated and feel young
again and and have all these new opportunities so for all ages it's a great place but there's a lot to learn and figure out I want to mention it again like it's not perfect and there's a lot of
guys are frustrated here trying to meet someone but there's some ways around that but takes time and maybe you can explore that more in future videos I talk about it a lot in my videos too but Chad does
a great job with a lot of topics but I think one of the things that stands out in terms of value for us younger guys is covering dating um and I think he does the topic Justice I think
he's respectful I think there's a lot of nuance in the topic to go over what's the biggest misstep that you see younger guys make when they come over here I mean young guys old guys I think guys are
guys a lot of the times when it comes to girls and I think the mistake or Miss step pretty common across the board now this depends on what the intentions are if a guy wants to come here for
a genuine relationship of some sort the most common thing guys do is get distracted and go down the wrong path and and like I said there's a lot of Filipinas that are the first ones that you're going to
come in contact with they're the ones that are all over the dating apps they're the ones that are putting the effort in to meet someone a lot of those girls that are metaphorically waving at you and throwing themselves
at you you can get into trouble with these kind of girls a lot of them are younger super hot and they're giving guys attention that they're not used to back home we are cavemen sometimes like we're dumb Dums
guys are and when we have these cute girls that are giving us attention or if we're online and we're swiping a lot of times guys will will sort of go after or pursue someone even if in the back
of their head they're like this is probably not the type that I should pursue or should be with but she's so cute oh and she's giving me attention oh I got another message from her okay I'm going to
meet her next thing thing you know you're you're spending you're spending a lot of time dating or some guys getting into trouble or handing money away and things like that because they're caught up in the guilt or whatever
they're whatever these girls are doing to plant the hardships and stuff like that there's a number of things I can go into detail of a lot of stories of guys that I've met talked to about how they're down
a lot of money because they were hoping this girl was going to be their trophy wife in fact I just talked to someone a few days ago about this whole thing and he spent so much money on her
and I'm trying to steer him away and he's like but I've already invested so much and that's his reasoning to keep going like this girl ises not genuine man you know so these are the kind of things that
guys can get into trouble with don't chase the trophy wife because they are here and they're very cute and they're giving you attention and try to focus on the things that you know like write some things down and
so you can remind yourself of what you're actually looking for and does that person meet that criteria and if there's red flags early on don't ignore red flags and don't ignore your intuition like if your gut is telling
you something nine times out of 10 you're probably on to something and it's not worth it there are so many single Filipinas here we've all made this mistake to some degree where you just let it slide or you'll
just let a few red flags come in and you know the same thing so cute getting the attention that affection can be overwhelming stay true to what's on your list even if if you don't write it you just
know it and stay stay true to your intuition kind of know what's if you're going down the right path or not half the time you somewhat answered my question one of the things that I wanted to dig into
there's young guys they're watching you they're like man Chad's living the life I can't wait to get over there I'm going to find my girlfriend on day one they feel lonely what Insight can you share for them to
kind of steer them toward mindfulness such that they don't immediately start sending half their paycheck to a woman they've never met they don't you know get engaged a week after landing what what can you kind of share with
them to say yeah look I get it I've been there I've been lonely back home don't make a major mistake based on your experiences to date well set strict guidelines for yourself and stay true to them don't feel
desperate even though that you're having no luck back home you're coming to a place where I hate to say it no I don't hate to say it you're you're the catch like you are most guys are a catch
here assuming you're a good guy and you're not some you know someone with whatever bad intentions or what there's there's a lot of maybe not great guys here too but if you're just a good guy doesn't matter if
you're considered nerdy back home if you're considered not great looking or you don't have good style it doesn't really matter here I think the good girls no I don't think I know the good girls here they don't really
care about that much they do care about someone who's going to treat them well respectfully understand cultural differences uh appreciate them be open to like their often family people things like that if you're a good person and you're
honest and you treat someone well you can find yourself with a girl that you never dream of being with but you have to stay true to that you have to have faith in yourself and your ability and not
come with this feeling of desperation a lot of guys do that and they're like man I haven't had this attention I don't think I'm going to get another girl like this and they'll just jump in with that first
cute girl that gives them attention so just know that you are the catch here and just be a good person be very strict with with yourself know what you're looking for and don't steer away from the things that
you are really looking for in a relationship I don't know there's more that I I think I was going to answer I already forgot no worries we do want to be mindful of of your time tagging on that
a lot of guys are thinking why would a girl that looks like that want to be with me and you touched on that a little bit earlier talking about the responsibility the maturity I know that you have friends
that have found successful committed relationships and you probably had a chance to talk to their girlfriends or wives could you share a bit about what those girlfriends or wives have said to you is there a Common Thread among
the good ones I often feel like with difficult relationships they're bad in many different ways with good relationships they all seem to have some of the same factors over and over again so what are those things that the
partners or wives of your friends have mention hey I really like this about my husband or I really like this about my boyfriend who's come here from Australia or the United States or Canada yeah there's without a doubt
there's a Common Thread when it comes to like finances not a single one of all the guys that I've met that are in good relationships married or serious relationships not one of them ever like put burden like Place
burden on them like some sort of you know the hardship oh I'm going to need some money can you help me none of them have done that so right off the bat I think you need to be super
strict about if you're getting any of that even like after dating for a little while if you're if they're then starting to place that burden on you in any way and make you feel bad to try to get
some financial help whether it's them or the family if you get any weird Vibes about oh there's a foreigner in the family we can gain from this if you're getting that vibe in any way turn the other way
it's not worth it because every single wife or girlfriend that I've met that's with a good guy that I know just never happened not like not at all not at all in fact a lot of them will do
the opposite and they'll they'll try to find ways to help support the cause of you know saving money or hey let's not eat out let's let's cook I'll make something or talking about like Building Wealth together like how
can I help you with what you're working on you know Mike and Janet I like using them as a couple as an example I love them I love both of them Janet is such a sweet caring person she
has sort of bolted on to Mike in this wonderful way and it's G and and it's helped her so much too where she wants to be a part of his his life Adventure and his YouTube channel and she's
learned so much and now she's doing her own channel and streaming and doesn't mean that has to be the thing for you but the fact that she has really supported him in his cause he says things like I
could literally leave like she has access to everything that I own I could be gone for a month come back I know she's going to be there I know no money will be taken he feels so much trust
and so comfortable with her you need to feel that in a relationship and that's where I get back to the intuition like if if you don't feel that if something seems off don't even bother do not bother because
all of the guys that I've met they've never had that feeling they feel the opposite they constantly are reassured by their partner never any even little lies like I don't know maybe there's dumb White Lies I I don't
know but they're very honest let me just put it that way they're very honest people they all say the level of Integrity is so high to me these are the key things and this is what you got to
stick with because that's a Common Thread amongst every couple that I've met that are successful have you ever met a guy who disqualified a few ladies early and then later found his long-term partner and was glad that he
was patient Paul who you know as well Paul here old dog his story is kind of like that like he came here and he's open about it he's made videos about it he dated and he didn't know what
he was looking for he didn't even know if he wanted to settle into something right away and it wasn't until a few years where he met his now wife where everything changed and he kind of what he saw
with her and the interactions were such a high level of this feeling of trust and this feeling like she doesn't want anything from me she doesn't want my money she wants to help me like it it kind of
hit him that way and he had a vision of seeing he always says like I could see myself with her way down the road like it was a clear path and a Clear Vision that he was comfortable with
and I learned a lot from that with him too like when I'm meeting someone like can I see myself with them yeah maybe now it would be fun but can I see myself with them way down the road
does this seem like the right fit for me through thick and thin through all of it and so that's how he kind of describes it I think that happens a lot with guys here it's some guys get lucky
some guys can find someone right away I don't want to say it's not possible that helps if you really really know what you're looking for and you don't do those things that I was saying you don't get distracted
by the wrong type you don't waste your time with that essentially and if you really know what you're looking for and that person comes about and you're ready that's another thing how ready are you really cuz a lot
of these girls they're ready and things move move a little quicker here too and you got to sort of Juggle that a bit but are you ready to talk about the serious aspect of committing with someone and a
lot of Western guys nowadays especially and girls over there we have this mentality of we're reluctant to commit like we're so self-absorbed we have our own life we're independent guys and girls committing to someone and changing our life
to cater to them and it's like oh I mean I'm guilty of this like I've been so focused on my own thing and I you know I've made the mistake in the past and I've been married and so
now the next time time I want to make sure it's it's the right thing but if you really know what you're looking for it's going to help you a lot I don't know I'm steering away from the original
question what was the question again about oh taking time before they meet someone right okay I'm on track like another guy I don't know Gio that well but gi's story is similar right like he was here for a
while and he had different girlfriends this is a story that I understand in a nutshell and now he's married and it took him a while to find that person I think there's a a lot of other similar stories
like that and it could just be you go through this period of discover and figuring it out figuring it out for your own sake what are you looking for what do you want out of life and it's a
relationship it's timing and it's being ready knowing what you're looking for it's different for everybody that's so powerful you know what you mentioned about being ready for commitment part of it's just learning right if we've been single for
5 10 years we may have totally forgot what it's like to be in a relationship we may have totally forgot wow I need to consider the other person's perspective I need to be prepared to hey they might want
to go spend time with their family am I okay with that where back home family is just not top of mind for a lot of people it's there for some people I'm not going to say it doesn't exist
at all but for most of the people I know back home work is the number one priority friendship and relationship is number two family is probably a distant third for a lot of people back home unfortunately that's just
I think just kind of the way modern society is Chad I can't thank you enough today you've been so generous with your time and your perspective you have a lot of new Nuance I say patience is number one
in the Philippines number two is Nuance it's not this is good and this is bad it's really trying to find that Gia I do want to give you the final word and feel free to plug your channel again
it's everybody who's not yet subscribed should go and subscribe to Chad Foster explores but yeah final word over to you Chad oh just thanks for doing this with me man it's great I love your channel too and your
content we talked about this before so you guys are that are subscribed if you're not subscribed to his channel and stay tuned for more I know your Channel's going in in the right direction and it's it's pretty awesome
and yeah if anyone wants to come to my channel Chad Foster explores I would be grateful for that and check it out hopefully there's some content there that you like and yeah man I kind of living the dream
over here eh it's great life is good it's more fun in the Philippines guys get your butts over here thanks so much everybody please subscribe if you haven't already we'll talk to you soon
