hey you Dubai just wanted to join you guys today and share three reasons why I think you should consider leaving your hometown it's a big decision for a lot of people because here in the United States I think
we tend to be a somewhat conservative country and that tends to lead to people relying on their families a lot I don't think it's as community oriented is what I've learned about some other countries and so basically yeah
go ahead and get into it the first reason that I think that it's worthwhile to leave your hometown is leaving old relationships behind a lot of us you know we're coming of age a lot of us you know
the main connections we have are people the way you ever went and I think for some people these people can be really positive you're surrounded by leaders in your community people that helped set ethical standards in the community
and basically they provided a sort of a role model experience or a mentorship type of experience where you can see they might not be doing exactly what you want to do but they're able to provide you a sort
of template you know hey maybe you should consider studying this in college so that you could later get into this into this other industry but for me growing up in my community most of the people that I was
exposed to were not positive influences a lot of the people that I grew up around had drug and alcohol problems they tended to spend their weekends and their free times drinking doing drugs engaging with sort of trash content
things like you know Jerry Springer these types of things are you know they can distract you from your problems and for some people their problems are so extreme and my case I I can you know attest to that
that there were times many times where I just wanted to get into a video game and totally disconnect from paid in my life and and I recognize that you know a lot of people were doing the best I
know how but I don't think it's an excuse to go down that path and I think that when you can recognize who's contributing to and enriching your life and who's not you may find that a lot of the
old relationships in your life a lot of the longest relationships in your life can actually be some of the least productive and most harmful I learned this you know kind of the hard way where I start to realize
some of the most important adults in my life actually did not have their lives together with me you know whether it be financial struggle or interpersonal struggle they had some pretty glaring flaws that I felt like they had
opportunities correct and chose not to and so when I visited California I visited Colorado other states I started to meet people that place to higher importance like I do on education personal development challenging yourself exploring ideas you don't
agree with I was a big one in my area in Tennessee as I felt like people were dogmatic if not about politics they were didactic about religion or they they were dogmatic about some something you know basically they
had some black and white type of philosophy and they didn't feel like there was any gray area and they didn't feel like there were opportunities to learn for people that felt differently from them and I don't feel like
that's the case in other parts of the country now there may be areas in your area the country where you grew up where you feel like there are other problems and that's okay too I I think that that's
one of the beautiful things about listen living in the United States is that we have the opportunity to check out different geographical areas whether it be the west or the east or the Midwest the South even Hawaii and
Alaska provide unique experiences that you don't have to get a passport for and and so these are things to think about you know what kind of lifestyle do you want to build a lot of people I think maybe
get stuck in the day-to-day and they they struggle with the planning aspect of things and I think that if they had a better picture of what they were aiming for it might be easier to crew you know the
finances or the relationships or the skill sets to obtain more of what they actually want to is moving along from bad memories it's it's something that you can't really change actually I passed a lot of people say you
can't change the past and I think one of the things that we don't connect to that is the memories and the habits built into the past for me I had a pretty tragic time growing up I lost my
mom when I was 8 years old my dad died when I was 11 years old I didn't really know my dad that well I was actually growing being raised by my grandmother after my mom passed away and so
on a regular somewhat regular basis I would find myself you know inevitably driving by you know one of the old houses that I grew up in and kind of being taken back to some of these you know be
super tragic situations it was really triggering to me to have these type of experiences and to sort of feel like I was just stuck repeating the same sorts of experiences over and over again because I'd take that anger
that sadness and I'd bring it into my own interpersonal relationships and it was kind of a vicious cycle where I felt like I was just reliving my past over and over and over again another thing is you know
I got into several different car accidents throughout my youth and so I you know happened upon those and and because it's you know the place like kind of see you can't live without a car I just felt angry
all the time you know angry from being reminded of all I'm stuck in traffic and I would stop and go and when I grew up there wasn't like that it was you know there were all less people in
Tennessee and so it was bad memories compounded by the fact that people you know come into the area there are obviously a lot of them are successful looking for success and it's just hard to integrate your past experiences
with the new experiences of incoming residents I just felt like my culture did not really mesh as well and Tennessee as some of the other people a third start a fresh life you know I've talked about leaving old
relationships behind leaving bad memory memories behind the great thing about living in California for me is that nobody knows my past it's an opportunity to get texts realized the tragedies I've experienced without people just feeling sorry for me
I can actually be judged based on the mirror of my experience rather than say the fact that I was arrested for marijuana when I was 18 these types of things sort of stuck with me in Tennessee I knew
that it would always be something that would come up on a background check it would always be something I needed to explain to employers or people that I wanted to do business with I'd regularly get you know harassed
by the police stop for no reason every other month they I didn't get a traffic violation until I was so I moved to Colorado 25 but I got used to get pulled over in Tennessee 6 8 10 times
a year for made up pretend violations they wouldn't take me because they realized that I would probably follow up and go to court and explain to prove that I proved my innocence and that was really repetitive and annoying
the great thing about California is they really value education in Tennessee I had high school you know public teachers that would regularly try to dismiss evolution and other really integral parts of science that are sort of serve as
a foundation to understand other Sciences and that cripples students in Tennessee from having an educational advantage of living in the United States we often talk about how great education in the United States is but I think that you
know we have to add a caveat to that that up in its private education or living in areas that are nice but actually the majority of people not living in educated areas suffer from this anti-science anti-intellectual mentality and
you know in my school it was often these athletics departments that got the majority of the funding and this is frankly unrealistic for most students most students are not going to be star basketball players football players MMA fighters
etc most of these people are actually gonna probably harm their bodies and they're basically their physical health or not much returned and so actually it would be a better idea to a lot of people toward developing a technical
skill or I can work with their hands or developing a career in like finance or computer science you know these two things are probably gonna be around for a lot longer in comparison to say just you know sports
in general sports will be around but it's fairly obvious that there are there's a higher demand for top programmers web developers software engineers machine learning experts than quarterbacks and running backs and other types of ball players but really
just wanted to talk about these three reasons why you should leave your hometown I don't think it's discussed enough I think there's just sort of divide we're the people that want to leave get out as soon as possible
like me and the people who want to stay they stay and they make life-changing decisions that you know like having children or getting into debt for a large home that are not easily reversed and so I think that
you know if you watch this video it might give you some tips on how to navigate or what to think about when it comes to leaving your area I'll do another video talking about reasons you should stay in
your hometown because actually I don't think that it's for everybody to leave their area I think that a lot of people could benefit from it but I also think that there are people that leave their hometown and it
negatively impacts their life because they weren't really prepared and they didn't really anyway if you like this video if you like my content give me a thumbs up give me a like you know hit the subscribe button I've
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